tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3621569952338337638.post3055467294481334264..comments2023-04-29T03:38:40.917-05:00Comments on Organizational Determination: I can't think of a titleRebeccahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13079989571191266715noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3621569952338337638.post-9817827595702513292007-09-27T11:43:00.000-05:002007-09-27T11:43:00.000-05:00Thankyou so much for your encouragment and yes, ev...Thankyou so much for your encouragment and yes, even for the exhortation. <BR/>As usually never get to the point of yelling. And I don't think I mentioned that I was to that point. But I was. Sad to say. And shame on me.<BR/> <BR/>I do agree with what you have said in most areas of life, although, in the quality of their schoolwork, I would have to disagee only becasue as being their mom I know the difference between them disobeying vs. them being overwelmed, undernourished, ect. For example, if they stayed up late the night before, I would give grace. <BR/><BR/>Do we read stories? Absolutely! And we just started Creative Writing which is just a wonderful way for me to get close to my daughter by talking about the beauties of life in a more detailed manner. Kind of shows her *my* heart a bit, if you know what I mean.<BR/><BR/>When my kids do sin a little more frequently or deliberately than usual, I try to keep my perspective. Kind of a "just becasue you are sinning, doesn't mean I have to sin back" type perspective. That usually keeps my mindset right. No yelling, not getting upset or even worse, taking their sins personally. They aren't doing anything against me personally, they are just being little sinners. <BR/><BR/>As I wrote that entry, I erased a line where I started to write "why don't they act like they love me" and I thought how wrong my thinking was. As if just becasue I sin against God, I don't love Him anymore. AS I wrote, my mind and heart changed. It made me wish I had written the post much earlier in my frustration. That God would've worked on my heart had I went to Him earlier. <BR/><BR/>As for the schedule being revamped...I think that if they put forth an effort, kept their focus, rather than playing EVERY second I turn my back, they would benifit and have the free time they really want. They choose to play at the wrong time. When it is time to work, they need to work and when the work is done, they get to play. We have a decent yard of which they get to play in daily so it's not like I am depriving them.<BR/><BR/>I kind of think that God's love does depend upon our performance. (not in regards to heaven--Christ PIAD for my sins--all of them) But the Bible teaches that the ones who serve faithfully will be rewarded in heaven and the ones who do not will be ashamed in heaven. (1Cor. 3:15-21) To say you work for the Lord doesn't matter at all is not damnable, but is important. A faithful child will recieve a much better inheritence than an unfaithful one. That is true in this life and the eternal one.<BR/><BR/>I truly appreciate your thoughts. I try to balance the pushing for excellence and graceful mercy, but I obviously need to try harder.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13079989571191266715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3621569952338337638.post-88695647435228908872007-09-27T10:20:00.000-05:002007-09-27T10:20:00.000-05:00Hello,I don't know you but I stumbled upon your la...Hello,<BR/>I don't know you but I stumbled upon your lament and my heart goes out to you. I see no words of encouragement yet, in the comments, so I offer you mine along with a wee bit of exhortation. <BR/><BR/>Just from reading you blog I think, and I could be wrong of course, but I think that you have a good understanding of the Lord Jesus as The Lion of Judah--the one who roars and does not wink at sin. Many people today ignore this aspect of our King, but you have a good grasp of the seriousness of this life and what he expects. <BR/><BR/> Maybe, however, you have not quite understood in fullness that He is also the Lamb whose grace and mercy covers your daily deficiencies as well as your dear children. He loves you with a perfect love that does not depend upon your performance. He just loves you, period. It took many years for this truth to move from my head to my heart, but when it did, it changed me forever.<BR/><BR/>If what you are using/doing is broken, you must fix it. Then your plans will go smoothly. It appears to me that your school schedule lacks the grace that your children need in order to enjoy the hard work. And yes, they should work hard. You are right. But children crave beauty and creativity as well. These ideas inspire them to work hard. Do you read lovely stories in between the harder lessons? Do the children have opportunities to explore God's creation first hand and run around outside frequently? They were made for this. You cannot go against nature and succeed. You may accomplish the schedule but you will lose their love for learning. <BR/><BR/>Your daughter is showing her frustration but is also revealing her natural tendency to sin, isn't she? There is absolutely no need for you to get frustrated or shout at her (I used to do that, believe me) I am learning that my four children respond to the gentle commands of an unwavering mother. I think you just need to outlast her. She will see you mean business when you never give in to her little naughty ways. Mommy gives a command with a normal voice and under no circumstances does she yield; at the same time she makes sure the dear daughter's lessons are filled with food that nourish her little soul. Children thrive on this, with a smattering of veggies now and then, in between (phonics, math?). NOT the other way around.<BR/><BR/>(http://higherupandfurtherin.blogspot.com/2006/10/children-feed-on-ideas-not-facts.html)<BR/><BR/>You have beautiful possibilities in front of you. Hang onto His mane, but don't forget to stroke the Lamb.<BR/><BR/>Grace and Peace to you and yours <BR/>;-),<BR/><BR/>a sister on the other side of the worldlindafayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10593813942424765333noreply@blogger.com